Have you ever noticed that most weddings follows almost exactly the same script? For some reasons, In wedding ceremonies there’s often a dramatic moment where the minister says “If any of you has reasons why these two should not be married, speak now or forever hold your peace.” an overused plot device in weddings that gives an opportunity to an ex-lover of the bride or groom to rush forward, proclaiming his or her love, or for some new shocking information to be revealed about the couple.
It seems to solely exist to create dramatic tension, which isn’t necessarily good for an actual wedding.if one can alter this tradition, rather than asking this question in the negative, I would suggest asking your guests for their support in marriage and love for one another by asking them to make some vows as your community such as;
- will you support this union and affirm that these two should be married today? (guest respond, “We Do”)
- Will you surround this young couple in love, offering them the joys of your friendship? Will you support this couple in their relationship? At times of conflict will you offer them the strength of your wisest counsel and the comfort of your thoughtful concern? At times of joy, will you celebrate with them, nourishing their love for one another? (guests respond, “We Will.
Don’t these seem like some nice alternatives to the question that only seem to stir up awkward incidents or would you rather include the line “Speak Now or Forever Hold Your Piece” in your wedding ceremony?